Why men have affairs?
Chat about a loaded subject that no one wants to speak about, this is it. Amusing thing, affairs have been going on ever since old ages. Extramarital affairs can be fraught with problems, cause misery, and other harms. In addition you have to wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and honesty issue, finances, age dissimilarity, spiritual education, shame, and on and on. I anticipate there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the intention of this post I will define an affair as a long term, maybe decades long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other persons, lonely wife looks for dating.
Why do women have affairs? There are as many answers as there are man seeking woman for affair. I am conserned typically though it is only the human condition, the need for liking, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and respected. Here are a several reasons I have run across.
In nature we as human beings are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasurable and exciting, and sex makes us get away the real world for a short period of time. This excitement exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels high enough. Some people can switch the desire on and off, some are good at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and mature, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the exhilaration of the chase. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the caring for another person, for some it is the desire to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the total romance thing. These desires and yearnings can be so strong they rise above the taboos humanity has erected against extra-marital affairs. For many individuals the yearnings will defeat their worries and make them risk the fury of not only their family, but the public as well. So why, what is the means?
Sex Addicts, probably some of us are. Sex is very good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically driven sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not wound your spouse or anybody else? You will need to minimize the jeopardy you are taking. If you have the approach that a good affair is one that is advantageous to everyone, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the major cluster, gigantic in fact. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, except they are comfy in the manner they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Then there are the kids to consider. Your money are so entwined. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to be jointly besides love and sex.
Bodily reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that prevent them completing the sex operation, at least not with their othere half. An extramarital affair from time to time solves the difficulty while keeping the marriage intact.
Ignoring, sadly this is a common cause I fear. One or the other, generally the man is sexually neglecting his woman for a tones of reasons. As a male I truly am grateful to you guys neglecting your ladies and making them available to us males of romance, making them “hot wives” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but evil.
Something is just omitted in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Perhaps its romance that is missing, could be it is a shortage of love, could be compassion is gone, maybe it is the intimacy, could be neglect. Could be we have just developed distantly, our ordinary concerns diverged. Could be it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is opposite of what you want. Could be I simply don’t know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that emotion that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The number one reason people give is, they seek the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to get away, for economic gain, for payback and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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